4 Tips to Staying Calm in 2018 and Beyond Part 3: Let it Go! Let it Go!

Let it Go! Let it Go! is much more than the song from Frozen, it is abll about letting go of emotions that is holding you back from moving forward.  Check out some more tips below.  Let me know what you think.

Make Time for what you Enjoy! 

Are you constantly busy to the point where you are unable to enjoy what life has to offer? By being busy, you do not make the time to do the things you enjoy. When you live on purpose, you will notice that you enjoy most of your life.

By being busy, do you not make the time to do the things you enjoy. You operate on automatic pilot, constantly working on a never-ending to-do list. As a result you begin to lose touch with the things that bring you pleasure and joy. Life can come to feel like a lot of “have-tos” instead of “want-tos.” In fact, you may even forget what you enjoy!  If this is true for you, it will be harder for you to identify your passions.

Listed below are the six domains of life. In the spaces that follow each one, list two things you currently enjoy, two things you used to enjoy, and two things you might enjoy

Health/Fitness

  • Enjoy
  • Used to Enjoy
  • Might Enjoy

Recreation

  • Enjoy
  • Used to Enjoy
  • Might Enjoy

Relationships

  • Enjoy
  • Used to Enjoy
  • Might Enjoy

Spiritually

  • Enjoy
  • Used to Enjoy
  • Might Enjoy

Work/Career

  • Enjoy
  • Used to Enjoy
  • Might Enjoy

Finances

  • Enjoy
  • Used to Enjoy
  • Might Enjoy

Practice Gratitude through Journaling 

Being grateful is about much more than saying thank you – it’s about not taking things for granted and having a sense of appreciation and thankfulness for life.  People who are grateful tend to be happier, healthier and more fulfilled.  Being grateful can help people cope with stress and can even have a beneficial effect on heart rate.
Assignment: Each Day write three good things that happened. They can be anything you feel good about or grateful for. Try to include why you felt each of the things was really good. Do this for the next seven days.

Write a Letter of thanks. 

Studies show that expressing our gratitude to others can significantly boost our happiness. It can also have a powerful effect on the recipient and help strengthen your relationships.

Who are you really grateful to?

Think of three people who have been really positive influence in your life and that you feel really grateful to. They could be a member of your family, and old teacher, long-lost friend, colleague or something else who has made real difference in your life.

Think about the impact this person had on you and write a letter to tell them:

  • What specifically are you grateful for?
  • How did they help you?
  • How did you help make you the person you are today?

If possible, arrange a visit with the person and read the letter aloud to them. Otherwise post or email the letter to them and maybe follow up with a phone call.

Focus on your strengths

Understanding and using our strengths is about focusing on the things that come most naturally to us and that we love to do. Research shows that using our strengths is new ways can make us happier even after just one week!

Look for the good in people

It’s easy to take our nearest and dearest for granted. Constant criticism can be highly destructive, by we often fall into this trap, especially in established relationships.  But if we take time to bring to mind what we value and appreciate about other, we can both get more enjoyment from our time together. Research suggests we should ideally aim for five positive interactions to every negative one.

Say No 

“The more you say yes, the more you’ll have stress”

The Line-up Test – use to determine if you should decline a request or not.  To follow this test,  you take the time to look at your passions, visions and goals and compare it to the request.  Will fulfilling the request help you fulfill your own passion, realize your vision or reach your goals? If it doesn’t fit in the line-up then it goes into your “no” list.

Have a Happy Day!

Namaste,

Juneous Pettijohn

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