Modern life is full of hassles, deadlines, frustrations, and demands. For many people, stress is so common, that it has become a way of life. Stress isn’t always bad. In small doses, stress can motivate you to perform under pressure and encourage you to do your best. Stress becomes a problem when you are constantly running in emergency mode where your mind and body pay the price.
If you frequently find yourself feeling frazzled and overwhelmed, it’s time to take action to bring your nervous system back into balance. You may be already aware that activities such as meditation, yoga, taking a walk are proven techniques that you can use in reducing stress. Whatever techniques that you currently use, I will be adding to your list by presenting four additional tips.
These four tips or agreements are based on “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. These tips are:
1. Be impeccable with your word
2. Don’t take anything personally
3. Don’t Make assumptions
4. Always do your best
The first agreement is “Be impeccable with your word.” This agreement does imply that you honor you word as it relates to following though on your commitments and not be so quick to say yes when you really mean to say no. The author takes it a step further to say that when we are impeccable, we don’t use our word against ourselves by indulging in guilt or shame. We also don’t use our word against others in blaming, criticizing or gossiping.
The second agreement is “Don’t take anything personally.” The author mentions that whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally. People are going to come at you all the time with a variety of judgments and assumptions about you especially if they do not truly know you. Remember it is not about you, it is more about them. (Stress) Take note of this, if you take it personally, then there may be some truth in what they may be saying about you. Just make this a strong habit in not taking anything personal and you can avoid a lot of drama in your life.
(Ex: Think of a situation where someone challenged you, how did you reacted to that situation? Now no matter how you reacted to that situation, you now know that you “Don’t take anything personally.”)
The third agreement is “Don’t make assumptions.” The author states that “We have the tendency to make assumptions about everything. The problem with making assumptions is that be believe they are the truth. We could swear they are real. We make assumptions about what others are doing or thinking – we take it personally – then we blame them and react by sending emotional poison with our word. That is why when we make assumptions, we’re asking for problems.
A simple way to keep yourself from making assumptions is to ask questions and keep asking questions to make sure you are clear.
The last and final agreement is to “Always do your best.” No more and no less. But keep in mind that your best is never going to be the same from one moment to the next. Everything is alive and changing all the time, so your best will sometimes be high quality, and other times it will not be as good.
I want to encourage everyone to incorporate the Four Agreements into their goals for 2016 and beyond.
Namaste & Have a Happy Day!